What does it take to build a marriage that will last? Tony and Lauren Dungy have together known the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. They fell in love, built a family, and made sports history when Tony became the first African American head coach to win the Super Bowl. Yet they’ve also gone through difficult, relationship-testing setbacks, including job loss and devastating personal tragedy. In a culture where it seems harder and harder to make marriage last, what has kept the Dungys strong through it all? In Uncommon Marriage, Tony and Lauren share the secrets that hold them together, revealing what they’ve learned so far about being a good husband or wife; getting through times of loss, grief, or change; staying connected despite busy schedules; supporting each other’s dreams and goals; and helping each other grow spiritually. They offer encouragement and practical advice to equip your marriage to survive tough issues and flourish with joy, purpose, and partnership—in other words, to be a marriage that is truly uncommon.
I like to read books about lifelong successful marriages because I’m always interested in getting tips on how to grow closer through the years. This was a nice book and interesting story about the Dungy marriage. However, it wasn’t quite what I expected. I really felt like any couple could have written the book. It didn’t seem that uncommon to me. The book description is accurate in describing that the Dungy experienced relationship-testing setbacks such as job loss. However, again I felt that other couples could have written it and perhaps even better. Some couples in America have had to cope with job losses that lasted for much longer times. This is just one small example from the book that I found lacking.
I just wanted more from this book. As I reflect on my disappointment in this book, I realize that the title mislead me and heightened my expectations. I just didn’t view it as illustrating an uncommon marriage. It demonstrated a loving, committed, and successful marriage, but not necessarily uncommon. I probably would have enjoyed it more if it had been titled The Story of Our Marriage. It seemed to me that is what the book was about.
Next on my reading list is the companion study book. I’m hoping that the companion book offers more information on improving and deepening “common marriages”.
Despite the overall negative tone of my review, I do think there are a lot of readers out there that would really enjoy this book. If you are a fan of football, or are already fans of the Dungys, then you would probably enjoy this book more than I did. If you are looking for a book that inspires you to improve your marriage, I think that others out there that are more effective.